You can just be you, like you do; in trans spaces and talking to anyone who wants to listen and being part of the broad spectrum of trans people, you play an important role just as the lovely you exactly as you are. Others perceptions will always be there and is not always something you can control
I feel this invisibility as well... it's hard to occupy this newer space. 🩷 I have also noticed this recently, the mask of white male privilege is strange to me, as someone who has experienced a lot of male violence too, it's difficult to come to terms with the perceptions.
This was a fascinating post. Thank you so much for sharing.
I'm starting to have this experience more and more. In queer spaces, specifically trans spaces, I am still seen as a trans woman (I'm somewhat tall). But in everyday circumstances, most people don't notice me the way they used to. That's good in some ways pertaining to safety (less harassment, less threats, using a restroom isn't a big deal anymore). But at the same time I have been very public about my transition. I never thought that I would "pass", so that was never a goal. But I want to be visible, especially for those who are in the closet, and more importantly, kids who are exploring their gender. So when I meet with parents, politicians, and self-important people, I do tell them that I am transgender. But otherwise, unless somebody notices my jewelry, or my still mechanic hands, I think I have been quietly slipping into being assumed as cis. It's a strange place to be.
I struggle with this as well, especially since my partner and I pass as a cishet couple. I'm a trans man and they're AFAB non-binary. While it's nice to not be harassed, it sucks that I can't be quiet but visible representation for the uncertain or confused or scared.
You can just be you, like you do; in trans spaces and talking to anyone who wants to listen and being part of the broad spectrum of trans people, you play an important role just as the lovely you exactly as you are. Others perceptions will always be there and is not always something you can control
My elder status has overshadowed my ", queerness" has overshadowed my lesbian marriage and now divorce. I get it.
I feel this invisibility as well... it's hard to occupy this newer space. 🩷 I have also noticed this recently, the mask of white male privilege is strange to me, as someone who has experienced a lot of male violence too, it's difficult to come to terms with the perceptions.
This was a fascinating post. Thank you so much for sharing.
I'm starting to have this experience more and more. In queer spaces, specifically trans spaces, I am still seen as a trans woman (I'm somewhat tall). But in everyday circumstances, most people don't notice me the way they used to. That's good in some ways pertaining to safety (less harassment, less threats, using a restroom isn't a big deal anymore). But at the same time I have been very public about my transition. I never thought that I would "pass", so that was never a goal. But I want to be visible, especially for those who are in the closet, and more importantly, kids who are exploring their gender. So when I meet with parents, politicians, and self-important people, I do tell them that I am transgender. But otherwise, unless somebody notices my jewelry, or my still mechanic hands, I think I have been quietly slipping into being assumed as cis. It's a strange place to be.
I would like to ask, with great respect and as a Psychological Scientist, how much do you feel Visibility is a part of Gender and Sexual Gender?
If you choose to answer, the data will be evaluated for Psychological Research to help nourish the world. You will remain anonymous.
I struggle with this as well, especially since my partner and I pass as a cishet couple. I'm a trans man and they're AFAB non-binary. While it's nice to not be harassed, it sucks that I can't be quiet but visible representation for the uncertain or confused or scared.